How To Use Your Thoughts To Get What You Want From Your Life – Without Having to Become a Jedi.

When I first read “The Art of Racing in the Rain” a couple of years ago, a book about an old dog called Enzo, and his owner Denny (two race-car driving enthusiasts), I thought it was going to be another Marley and Me (cue tissues).

It turns out, that I was actually getting myself into a deep philosophical book on life, death, family, and all things in between, told through the eyes of a Golden Retriever.

This book actually had a significant impact on me, as a result of one quote in the book, which you can check out below (I would highly recommend sticking this somewhere you can see it every day!)

Come to Terry's Seafood Party!

Pretty profound for a book about a dog, right?

But here’s the thing – I genuinely believe if you could understand this quote, and take action on it, you would be taking leaps towards your goals, and where you deserve to be in your life.

Let’s break this all down here, because I really want you to take something away from this!

I’d also love to hear if this quote has spoken to you today. If it has, jump in to our free Facebook group below, and share what you’ve learned from it!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindsteinsystemfreegroup

The Power of Thoughts

You currently have approximately 100 billion neurons, interconnected by trillions of connections called synapses (that’s quite a few!). Some of these connections can send 1,000 signals every single second!

This is how your thoughts are created. Have you ever stopped to think about that? 

This is a lot of activity going on in your head, and the interesting thing about this process is that we often assume we have no control over any of it.

But, this is actually not the case! Many experts have found that choosing your mindset, can often mean choosing the outcome (One of my favourite books on this is called “Mindset” by Carol Dweck).

If you get to choose the outcome, you can choose to move in a positive direction with more positive thoughts, which leads to achieving what you want to achieve.

This knowledge that you can choose your direction in life is so, so empowering, and if you take one thing from this post, let it be that!

I can say from personal experience, that when I take the time to really think about what I want, see myself achieving it, and thinking about the feelings I will have when I reach my goal, I am far more likely to actually achieve what I set out to do!

Here’s a small example, but a big one for me!

Screen Shot 2017-08-26 at 20.34.12.png

There’s me, doing my first ever Facebook live stream, feeling super nervous and excited at the same time!

Before I turned on the camera, I sat down and thought about what I’d like to share with people, and what I felt would resonate with the people who were going to watch my video.

I visualised people commenting saying how much they enjoyed the video, and that they learned or took something away from watching it.

I allowed myself to feel the nerves of doing the video, worrying about what to say, and then feeling that relief wash over me, that I had gotten over my camera-shyness and appeared on a LIVE VIDEO!!

So, when I actually began recording, it was almost like I had been there before. I knew I would be nervous, and I was. I had never done this before.

But my nerves were controlled and were useful to me in terms of adrenaline and excitement, and when I finished, I knew I would feel relieved, and I did.

When the video went out, it reached over 2,500 people in 24 hours, which was far more than the 50 people I had anticipated!

I received messages and comments thanking me for my video, which a lot of people felt resonated with them. This was everything I had visualised, and more.

But I had manifested this. This was no accident or stroke of luck.

I had created this, through my own thoughts, through those billions of neurons and trillions of synapses, I had completed my first ever live stream and shared my message with lots of people!

If all I had thought about was the nerves I would feel, and all the potential negative outcomes that could happen, I would probably never have done a live stream. If I had worked up the courage to do it, it probably would have been pretty awful, because I had essentially planned for that to be the outcome.

Whatever you want in life, manifest it, and you will see it before you. Whether that is to do a Facebook live stream to promote your business or share a message, to do your first public speaking engagement, or to get out of bed in the morning after a long time of feeling down, unmotivated and isolated.

It doesn’t matter, because the principle is the same. So often, we overcomplicate things with phrases like “it’s not that simple” and “I just can’t do that”, but simplify!

Here’s the step-by-step process for you to follow to take big action here:

  1. Figure out what you want to achieve or what you’re stuck on that you’d like to overcome
  2. Visualise all aspects of the scenario (ie. how you feel/look/think before, during and after the event) and what the desired outcome will be. Really feel this desired outcome as if it has already happened.
  3. Take Action. Take steps towards achieving whatever it is you are working towards, and trust in your visualisations. You have mentally prepared, and rehearsed. Now, just let things play out.
  4. Re-assess how things went, and look for ways to improve. Did your inner negative voice convince yourself that you couldn’t achieve x, y, or z before you started, and then felt surprised when you didn’t achieve it? Or, if everything went to plan, find ways to build on this in your business and personal life.

Things aren’t always going to work out. There are lots of other circumstances which might get in the way of your visualisations and action-taking. But if you truly commit to this process, you will get there. 

It might take longer than expected, or you might need to go back to the drawing board at time, but visualise your success, and then take action on it, and it will happen.

The problem is that most people will think about success, happiness, wealth, etc. but will never truly take action to achieve this. They are held back by limiting beliefs, traditions and stereotypes imposed on them by family and society, and they end up living a life they do not want.

You build the road in front of you. If you want to go left, go left. But you have to lay the bricks in the right place. Don’t allow other people to choose the direction of your life.

Lisa.

I will be posting more on Mindset and Visualisation inside the Facebook group and on our Facebook Page this week. To make sure you get a front row seat, join the Community now, and let us know your thoughts on this topic!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindsteinsystemfreegroup

 

How You Can Bypass the Fear of the Unknown and Learn to Enjoy Uncertainty Without Catastrophizing.

Do you have love sharing your story but fear people have heard it too many times and are bored? Do you get excited at a new concept you’ve come up with but put it on the back-burner because you’re not sure how to make it a success?

This is one of those things that every entrepreneur will face, pretty much on a regular basis. I’d like to share with you guys my own experience, and how I deal with these situations now as a result of what I have learned from years of studying failure.

Let’s set the scene…

A while back, I had just done a photoshoot for images for my new website. I was so excited with how they turned out. They were really natural, and I felt they summed me up pretty well!

I’m one of those people who always has to share the things I’m excited about, and so I sent my photos to my family and a couple of friends for their thoughts. I couldn’t wait to hear what they had to say!

Radio silence.

So I sat and waited…

And waited…

And waited some more…

My phone eventually rang. It was one of my friends to tell me how much they loved the photos and couldn’t wait to see more, and how proud they were of me.

Awesome, right? Wrong.

At this point, I had already created at least ten different reasons that no one had replied. Let’s list a few here, shall we?

  1. They hated them.
  2. They thought they were too cheesy.
  3. They really weren’t as excited by them as I was.
  4. They didn’t really care about my new website.
  5. They didn’t really care about my business in general.

On the left was where I was, and on the right was where I should have been.

Photo Credit: PD4PIC CLIPART.

You get the picture. So when my friend gave me this amazing compliment, I didn’t even hear it. It never made it through the negativity barrier. While it sounds a bit crazy that my brain went straight to this place, this is what we naturally do as humans. Just not every one will admit it!

It might be on a much greater or smaller scale – You might have finished the presentation of your career and there’s a moment where people don’t applaud leaving you unsure whether they loved it or hated it…oryou might have cooked a beautiful meal for your relatives from out of town, and no one has said it tastes good, yet.

The point is, life is filled with these moments of uncertainty. Where we just have to wait and see. It’s not always easy to do this, and the story above is an example of when my brain really struggled with just chilling out and embracing the uncertainty.

So what do I do now with my (complete Bulls**t) Negativity Barrier?

There are many different strategies for dealing with uncertainty and the negative thought patterns that creep in. I’m not going to share them all with you now, but the concept below will change your view of uncertainty completely, if you truly take it on board and implement it in your own life and business.

Focus on the Predictable.

When we engage in a pattern of negative thinking, we begin to catastrophize, or view the situation in a way that is far worse than it actually is.

Your brain will always go to that place of worst-case scenario if you let it, so focusing on the predictable aspects of the situation is one way to remedy this.

Whenever you experience something, your brain tucks this experience neatly away in the form of “schema”. So for example, if you get attacked by a wild boar in the woods (and live to tell the tale), your brain will store this experience away as one you wouldn’t want to repeat in the near future.

Then, when something similar happens, like you meet another wild boar in a different part of the woods (unlucky…), your brain will automatically tell you that this is not a good place to be and that you should run!

This is seriously useful, and keeps you safe and out of harm’s way in dangerous situations. However, your brain can create schema which do not serve you. There are several types of schema, but event schemas in particular occur when predictions are made about how a situation will turn out.

So if you had one bad public speaking experience, your brain may create a schema to predict the outcome of future public speaking experiences, resulting in the crippling fear of uncertainty about how successful your presentation will be.

The main way you can use schemas to your advantage is just by being aware of them and of the processes at work in your brain.

brain1.png

Photo Credit: Brainfacts.org.

So, going back to focusing on the predictable. You’ve delivered a sales pitch 1,000 times about your business, what exactly you do, and how your system or product works. It’s really, really effective and inspiring.

Now, let’s throw a really awful day into the mix, where your sales pitch is awful, no one buys, and you go home feeling a bit miserable.

You now know that your brain is busy at work filling in the blanks and catastrophizing, creating a self schema which says you’re a terrible public speaker and an event schema which predicts that every future pitch will be awful too.

But, armed with this knowledge, you can see this process at work, and you can change it. If the last 999 attempts were pretty excellent, you’re more than likely going to return to this high standard, regardless of one bad day.

It is your mindset that stops you from achieving excellent results again, as you accept the self schema and event schema of inadequacy and fear.

So, focus on the 999 positive aspects of your story, and the fact that these are a far more predictable outcome than the one negative aspect. This will completely unlock your potential, allowing you to remain cool and collected if things don’t go to plan, because this is your 1 in 999, and that’s okay!

Even computers make errors, so it’s pretty acceptable for you to have some here and there!

To go back to my photoshoot once more, I let the uncertainty get to me, and immediately went to worst-case scenario. Now, I only work with what I know, and this allows me to embrace the uncertainty and be confident in my own position.

If I mess up, if you mess up, that’s great. We can just return to what we know, which is being awesome at what we do and not let one event dictate our future performance! So don’t let your fear of the unknown hold you back – always move forwards and if you do one thing, remember to only focus on the positive and predictable aspects of the situation.

If this is something you love and are good at, do not let one moment of uncertainty or fear drag you down. Uncertainty teaches you to possess confidence in yourself, and being an entrepreneur is full of situations where you won’t always know the outcome, so it’s a great place to learn.

I hope this resonates with you, and I would love to hear your uncertainty stories and how you overcame them!

As always, you can get involved in the Free Facebook Group that I created for The Mindstein System (https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindsteinsystemfreegroup/), and begin your move towards fulfilment today.

The Mindstein System Logo

Lisa.